My purpose in life is to inspire you to do some fucking cool shit while you’re alive and to eat LOTS OF GREAT FOOD along the way. And it’s also to remind you not to stress so much. Because we can be out there LIVING and eating all the delicious food, but meanwhile we are in our heads worrying about everything. Why do we possibly do this to ourselves? Sometimes I am doing all the cool shit, meanwhile I am worrying: does Matt even want to have kids? Will I ever find work in Stockholm? Is my Mom disappointed in me for always living in another country? Is it inappropriate if I caption my next Instagram post that the reason I look pregnant is because I ate too much pasta and I’m not wearing a bra? (as pictured above)
NO MORE. We shouldn’t live like this. So guys, I know we’ve heard it a million times before and yet it still isn’t sinking in. So I don’t necessarily think that this single blog post of mine while change that. But this is something that I just don’t want to do anymore. I’M DONE. So I decided to compile a list of the stress management tools that do work for me and keep it CLOSE AT HAND. That's key. Hopefully these will be useful to you as well. And if not, well at least get out there and do some fucking cool shit and eat LOTS OF GREAT FOOD.
PS I don’t really swear much in my day-to-day life, although Mom, Ashley & Matt can say differently if I’m mad about something. But for some reason it feels bloody good to just let it rip when I’m writing.
Okay here we go.
Talk about your partner as if they are the best fucking thing to ever grace this Earth. I reckon our relationship can be the best and toughest thing in our lives. My good friend Hannah explains in her stress management post that building meaningful relationships influences the quality of our long-term health. They 100% do. We see our partner so much and it’s not a good feeling when you aren’t excited for them to walk through that door at the end of the day. Just keep saying how bloody great they are. Tell everyone. We can make ourselves believe anything. And once we believe it, we just see it that way and it becomes truth. You can do this with ANYTHING in your life.
Step away and go for a walk. Okay I am one of the worst for suggesting this to people and yet I won’t leave my little bubble of an apartment, even when I’m ready to smash my computer because I just don’t know HOW TO DO WHATEVER THE HELL IT IS I’M TRYING TO CREATE IN MY LIFE. BUT THEN, sometimes I do go for a walk and miraculously I feel a million times better. So please, try to peel yourself away.
Cook something delicious. Okay I’m a little biased on this one. Maybe it’s not cooking for you. But it’s doing something that takes your mind off of the god awful running dialogue going on upstairs. It is pretty INCREDIBLE that I can put on some music, pull up a recipe (or just let shit fly), spend an hour or whatever in the kitchen and TOTALLY change the direction of my thoughts. Maybe it’s sitting down and writing, or gardening, or building a cubby house for your bratty kids. But there’s just something in the act of creating that makes us feel bloody AWESOME. Elizabeth Gilbert's book Big Magic is a great read on the topic of creative living.
Get your sweat on. We’ve heard it a million times because IT’S TRUE. Oh I’ll just go for a leisurely morning stroll because I don’t really enjoy running. In reality I just find it hard. But when I do go for a run I feel a million times better that day than my leisurely morning stroll will ever make me feel. Of course I’ll continue to make this excuse, but just know, if you are out there doing your leisurely morning stroll and feel like maybe you could do a run, DO THE RUN. Oh and I love yoga. And sometimes it’s so nice to do a relaxing yoga class. I really like that. BUT it does not compare to how I feel after a hot yoga sweat fest. So just try to push yourself now and then.
Surround yourself with people who are just living and not giving two shits. This is so much easier than it used to be because of the wonderful world of Instagram. One of my biggest inspirations at the moment is Siri Barje, a food stylist & chef here in Stockholm. If I need to be reminded of how bloody awesome it is to just BE YOURSELF, I’ll take a quick read through her Instagram feed which is just her being a real human being. It is so refreshing. Read a blog by someone who is just doing WHAT THEY LOVE. I really like Adventures in Cooking, Local Milk and Cashew Kitchen. It will remind you to LIVE A LITTLE.
Go live in the woods for a few days. I’m a bit of a recluse in some ways, although I’m not sure I have the guts to do this on my own. I get scared at night. Although I am obsessed with Cheryl Strayed and her novel Wild. I do dream of being mentally strong enough to walk 1,100 miles on the Pacific Crest Trail for 3 months all by my lonesome. When I get into the great outdoors, I feel like I can breathe again. I am literally the happiest little camper you’ve ever seen. So just get outside, breathe in tree smell, grope their bark. BE ONE WITH THE WILD.
Thanks SO MUCH if you’ve read the whole thing through and I really hope it is of some use to you. And thanks for putting up with all those F bombs. I’ll return to my usual politeness… FOR NOW.
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Shan x x